Grand Slammerz provides you with a place to make new friends, enabling you to message, interact, or meet up with each other.

Meeting other members can be great fun, but at the same time you should to do it safely. Our guidelines on safer dating are provided to help raise awareness, and encourage you to think about how you approach meeting and playing with new people, both online and in the real world.

You can do a lot to ensure you are safer (e.g. tell a friend where you are going and when you will return) but of course there's always an element of risk in chatting to, or meeting, somebody for the first time - whether you have meet them online or in a bar.

Take a moment to read the sections below, much of this advice is common sense, but it never hurts to remind yourself!

Have fun and play safely!


Most people listed on Internet dating sites are sincere. However, don't forget that your profile may be read by people who aren't always as well-intentioned towards you as you would like. There are also criminals who trawl the web for email addresses and other bits of information which are valuable when combined together (e.g. home address combined with information that you're away on holiday).

In order to help to ensure your safety, and prevent identity theft, we suggest that you do not put very personal information on your Profile, such as:

• Postal addresses

• Telephone / mobile numbers

• Email addresses

• Credit card details

• Bank account details

• Date of birth

• Name of your Company or where you work

• Specific places or times you regularly go out

When you are asked for personal information to process your membership fees this information will never be seen by other members.

Please note that we do not undertake background searches of any of our members or users. You therefore should exercise caution in sharing any of your personal information with other members. We do not accept any liability should information displayed on a member’s profile be untrue or misleading.


Let your instinct guide you and don't continue the discussion if you think the other person:

• may be lying

• has inconsistencies in their story

• has made inappropriate remarks

• has gone beyond the usual boundaries of conversation

• asks for your credit card details or sends you a link to web address outside of the site

•or if you get a "gut feeling" that something is not right during or after the conversation


take your time - get a "feel" for the person before you meet

talk on the 'phone a few times before arranging to meet

meet in a public place

don't immediately accept an invitation to their place, unless you know they are genuine

meet in a place where other people are present

don't get picked up from your home

always provide your own transportation to and from your meeting place

tell a friend where you're meeting your date, where you are going and when you will return

leave your date's name and phone number with a friend, or where they can be found if you return late

send yourself an email saying where you are playing, with whom, when you will return, and their contact details

call a friend to say you are safe when you have met your date

agree a "signal" that will tell a friend if you are worried

if you invite someone to your home, don't leave any valuables on show, or leave your date alone - unless you know they are genuine.

Use your judgment, remember that you make the decisions:

• you decide when you feel comfortable meeting someone

• you're never obligated to get together with anyone, no matter how many e-mails or messages you've exchanged

• if you don't feel comfortable once you meet your date you can simply leave and go home - don't continue if you don't feel you want to

• If in doubt...don't go out!


There are a number of practical steps you can take to reduce the risk of Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs):

• Practice safer-sex to minimise the risk of sexually transmitted infections.

• Use condoms and plenty of water-based lube for anal sex.

• Do not use oil-based lubes with condoms unless they are specifically designed to be used in that situation - many oils will cause latex condoms to weaken.

• Whilst it is commonly viewed that oral sex has a lower risk of transmitting HIV and some other STIs, some people choose to minimise that risk further by using condoms.

• Latex squares called Dams are available for rimming.

• Gloves are recommended for Fisting.

• Insertable equipment and toys such as sounds, dildos, butt plugs or douches should be thoroughly sterilised following each use and certainly before using on another person. Ideally they should only be used on one person.

• Using a new condom over a dildo or butt plug will help prevent cross infection.

• Floggers, whips, paddles, etc. should be sterilised appropriately, especially if skin has been broken.

• Contact your local sexual health clinic for more information on Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI) prevention methods.


Don't feel obliged to take drugs or alcohol if offered, remember that you make the decisions.

Don't accept drinks or drugs from people if you are unsure as to what they may contain.

Do not leave drinks un-attended.

Never use drugs that may alter your ability to notice when your partner is in difficulty, or their ability to tell you.

Drugs and alcohol can alter self-awareness and you may not realise that something doesn't feel right.

Have frequent breaks in longer sessions and allow yourself and partner to cool down.

Drink plenty of water, and re-hydrate regularly.